We have been hearing the same messages for many years.
“Play nice in the sandbox!”. . . “Words have meanings . . .
Choose them well!” . . .
While these are important messages, I’ll add one more. My
Rule of FIVE. Before you get upset or angry, apply the Rule
of Five to any situation. Is whatever you’re angry or upset
about going to matter in 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days, 5
months or 5 years? If the issue doesn’t fit in any one of
those time slots, then don’t give it 5 seconds more of your
time. You’re just going to burn energy and time for
something that just doesn’t matter.
Please keep in mind that your leadership staff is
comprised of mostly volunteers. Some are very smart and
talented, but most are salt of the earth, everyday guys and
gals who don’t necessarily have college degrees. Just
because they’ve been bestowed with a title, doesn’t
automatically instill all the knowledge of running a lodge
or chapter.. It takes EVERYONE – EVERY MEMBER to run and
direct a Chapter. Don’t leave it up to the titles – they’re
But here’s the scary part. . . We’re closing Chapters at
an unprecedented rate. Why are we losing Chapters? Because
of the personality conflicts and not working together. Get
the “ME and I ” factor out of the equation and put in the
“WE and THEM” because we’re working for them – that is the
residents of Mooseheart, Moosehaven and our communities.
It’s remarkable what WE can accomplish for THEM when I and
Me don’t get in the way. Put aside the animosity and look
for something redeeming in the those you find issue with. Be
humble, admit if you’re wrong and be open to correction and
taking corrective actions to make things better – include
everyone. Lastly – get over yourself! It helps you get out
of your own way!
Simply put, we need to pay more attention to what’s going
on within our little microcosms of our Chapters. Don’t leave
it up to just one person (or ‘title’). Stop pointing fingers
because you know what? When you point fingers, always
remember that there are THREE pointing right back at
yourself. Think about it – when something goes wrong, it’s
not just one person’s fault! Have you been attending your
meetings? Have you been diligent in the Chapter operations
that everyone should be paying attention to? Have you been
working to promote cohesion or derisiveness? Have you asked
yourself, ‘How can I make this situation better?’ or did you
just throw your hands up and walk away?
We need to refocus. It’s not the burden of the tasks in
front of us that we need to focus on. Let’s refocus on the
fun that we should be having when performing those tasks.
When I think back on my years as a member and all the work
and happenings that I’ve been part of in the WOTM.. . it’s
the most poignant and funny things that come to mind. Yes –
there have been some sad memories, but the funny ones are
the best and first to spring to mind and far outweigh the
sad. SO – Let’s get back to focusing on fun!
With that said, to my Co-workers of the MD/DE/DC Women of
the Moose – watch for some fun things to be happening at the
February Mid-Year Conference. Williamsport Chapter # #2116
is already hard at work at being the Hostess Chapter.
There’s going be some extra special goodie bags
(Pre-registered Co-workers will not receive just the
obligatory pen, pad and starlight mints!). I’ve already
heard from the Tourism Board in Ocean City who’ll be
supplying special offers and a small gift to our attendees.
I’m working on some special excitement for early registrants
and hopefully we’ll see a record amount of attendees! Our
Mid-Year Conference focuses on learning. I’m focusing on
having FUN while learning and shaking things up a bit,
because aren’t you tired of the same old same old?! Oh! and
REMEMBER. . . it’s Valentines Weekend – so why not take some
extra time with your honey and share a special weekend with
your Moose family as well! The men will be featuring another
Cash Bash on Saturday night that’s going to offer up to
$12,500 in pay outs! It’s only $25/ticket – see your lodge
officers for tickets.
I am so excited and look forward to working with everyone
this year as your Deputy Grand Regent. Hold on Kids! It’s
gonna be a fun ride!
My Contact information is:
Jean M. Neal, 1322 1st Road, Middle River, MD 21220 -
email: firstname.lastname@example.org Phone: (410) 598-8427
Jean M. Neal